Clearing out and organizing spaces in your home can be an emotional process. Why is it so hard letting go of things? Loss is always difficult to cope with and when things start to go, it can equate to the fear of losing what those things may symbolize – a person, a place, a time, or an event. So of course, it is natural to want to avoid the pain or grief associated with loss, which in turn can make one want to avoid even starting the process let alone finish it.
Another feeling that can accompany letting go of things is guilt. Because some things were handed down through the family or given as gifts, you may feel obligated to keep them even if you do not like them or have no use for them. Perhaps there is a thing that has been in your space so long that once it is gone you may feel a bit sad when you look at where it once was. In this case, you have anthropomorphized the thing or attached human-like qualities to it – maybe even developed an affectionate attachment to it.
Whichever the case may be, the thought of having and keeping these things around is often driven by the need for a sense of control and security. As much as you may want to believe in this, it may do more harm than good. An environment crowded with things can unknowingly affect your emotional state, causing anxiety or even depression, which can be paralyzing. If you have reached that point, you no longer have control over your things, they have control over you. So, if you are struggling with the emotions of parting with things as you organize, here are some positive points that can keep you motivated throughout the process.
COURAGE: If you can find the courage to confront the emotions of letting items go, the initial grief or worry you experience will fade in time and be replaced with relief.
CHANGE: When you are open to change, you can look towards the future without these items standing in your way, taking up your space, or requiring your time and attention.
POSSIBILITIES: Think of the possibilities for your newly emptied space or the extra time you may have gained by not having to clean or maintain items that were no longer serving you.
SELF-WORTH: Be your own cheerleader! Revel in your accomplishments, even if they are small. Then pat yourself on the back and keep moving forward.
As you move forward, keep in mind that things will not bring you true happiness, peace, or contentment. Things cannot hug you or hold a conversation with you. They cannot understand you or believe in you. They cannot return your smile or laugh with you. Things cannot have feelings for you, so it may be best not to feel so strongly about things.